interesting day... talked to kids today that weren't making the best choices... not horrible kick you out of school choices... just decisions they were better than... I always ask them "what could they have chosen differently?" ...usually they go on a blame rant... and then I say "ok, pretend you are right and they did all that, what could you have done differently that would have made the situation better?" ...eventually... eventually... remember I work with non-self-reflective pre-teens... eventually... they think of something they could have done differently... a moment they made a choice that made it worse not better.
in one of those conversations today, a kid finally said "I could have not yelled at them" ... I affirmed that yelling probably made it worse instead of better... victory is ours. progress.
one of the biggest marks of character... whether it is a kid or grown folk... is the ability to take ownership of your own contribution to the problem.
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